Is Jealousy ruining your relationship?

Jealousy has been an issue in relationships right from the garden of Eden. That feeling of suspicion or fear of being replaced by a rival. Men and women alike are victims of jealousy. Though it is globally believed that women are the jealous once, i personally believe that men are more jealous than women. Shoot me!

A little jealousy, they say, is good for a relationship. The reason being that it gives that feeling of worth, that your partner values you and is scared of losing you. 

I guess no girl will appreciate her man to be nonchalant about her affairs; who her friends are, who she spends time with, where she goes to, and all that. Everyone wants to have a sense of belonging. 

 Too much jealousy, on the other hand, could be  a big issue. Some people let jealousy suffocate their relationships to death – and for some it can even be physically dangerous. It could escalate to a very sticky situation.  

Jealousy can be controlled, and it can be healed. Yea, I use the term "healed" cos it's a disease.

How do you know if you have a jealousy problem? You and your spouse might have a jealousy problem if either one of you does any of the following:

You follow your partner when he or she has a meeting with a colleague or client to whom you could potentially be attracted.

You read your partner’s e-mail.

You listen in on your partners’s phone conversations.

You ask your partner a million questions about where he or she was, what he or she was doing, and with who he or she was doing it.

You do not believe or are not satisfied with the response he or she offers the first time he or she responds to one of your questions.

You take an accusatory tone when asking your partner about his or her day.

You frequently accuse your partner of cheating when he or she has never betrayed you or given you reason to believe he or she would do such a thing.

You excessively frown upon your partner participating in any kind of social activities without you.

Your partner, in turn, dreads invites from friends and has lost touch with many of the people who had been part of his or her life before he or she met you.

You get into verbal or even physical altercations with others because you’re jealous or paranoid about what these people are doing with your partner.

You get violent or hurtful in retaliation of supposed infidelities or transgressions.

You threaten to hurt your partner, yourself, or others.

You have one set of rules about friendships and relationships for you and another for your partner. For instance, you can participate in a guy’s night out, but your partner cannot go out with her girlfriends alone ever.

When the two of you are out with friends and family, you eavesdrop on your partners’s private conversations with others.

You generally do not trust your partner.

Jealousy does not have to cripple your relationship. You can overcome your jealousy problem, but first you must realize and admit to having one.