1. Sleep over your issues
You have always been told to sort out your issues before
you call it a night. But now, relationship experts say it’s better to re-think
and take your time before you end an argument. This gives you and your spouse
the time to reconsider the problem.
2. It’s alright to holiday apart
Unless you’re on your honeymoon, there’s no reason to
travel together all the time. There could be places that you are keen to visit,
but doesn’t interest your partner and vice-versa. In such situations, it would
be better to holiday with your friends.
3. Keep an account
A recent report says many couples prefer to maintain
separate bank accounts instead of the traditional joint ones. This does not
mean that you don’t trust your partner, it’s just a way of ensuring control
over your finances. And yes, it is a blessing for those with an independent
streak.
4. Spouse needn’t be shopping buddy
It’s common for women to complain that their husbands
refuse to shop with them. On the other hand, men hate the long hours their
wives spend at malls while shopping. It’s always better to shop with people who
enjoy it. If not your spouse, tag along some gal pals the next time you are in
a mood to splurge. While most couples have a set of common friends, it isn’t
necessary to abandon those you’ve known before marriage. On the contrary,
having different sets of friendswill give both of you some space in the relationship.
5. Don’t expect her to cook/clean everyday
Men must understand that their wives work as hard as they
do. It’s impractical to expect your wife to do all household chores. Don’t
expect her to be happy about toiling away in the kitchen while you lounge on
the sofa, watching a match. If you want home-cooked food, help her out in the
kitchen.
6. It’s healthy to have some ‘me time’
Don’t feel guilty if you feel the need to spend time by
yourself. Doing things for yourself doesn’t mean that you are ignoring your
relationship. In fact, by doing this you will be happier in your relationship.
Also, keep the same in mind when it comes to your spouse.
by Harshada Rege
Read more: Times of India
These are really intelligent new rules. Its time people stop trying to fit their own experience into a box
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