Beside Every Great Man...

Hi Ladies! 

So the "Beside every Strong Man is an even Stronger Woman" is a saying most people have heard, but have you ever thought about what it really means? I heard this saying the other day and scriptures came to my mind and the meaning behind it kind of hit me. 

First off, nothing that I'm saying means that ladies can't be independent, single, successful with a career, happy, and live a fulfilling life. God is love ladies & as long as you have him, you've got it ALL! :) but this is just something to look at when you do find the one God has set aside for you.

There is nothing wrong with preparing yourself and learning before he comes into your life, that is something many Christians reject. So many Christians are offended by those who talk about relationships a lot when really God created us to be social creatures. 

Relationships are very important, not just the courting relationship . A relationship with any person in your life is important, and just because you talk about relationships, or marriage does not mean you're not focusing first on God. Many people are deceived by that. So go ahead & learn all you can. Keep dreaming, because one day in God's perfect timing your dream will become a reality, and you and the person he has for you will become one. Be patient & make sure those dreams don't become more important than your relationship with the perfect love...God himself <3.

So strive to be the BEST you can be, not for another person, not to "impress" someone, but because you truly want to live life striving to be the best you can be for God & HIS glory :) 

Now, a deeper look into this saying.... I don't think we women will ever truly understand the pressure and stress a man faces daily. He has a lot on his plate, a lot of responsibilities, a lot of demands, and a lot that is expected out of him. The man has a much more demanding role than the woman...ladies, if you're offended by that, I'm sorry.

Yes, we ladies have a big role, but not like the man and if that wasn't so then God would have never created Eve in the first place. There would be no need for her. Man is the leader & the woman is the helpmate. God created man first & Eve second for the man. Not the other way around. Why? Because God didn't want man to be alone. God wanted the man to have help in life. God knew it'd be hard, so he created woman to stand beside him throughout his life.

"The Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."" Genesis 2:18 

There is a helpmate SUITABLE for every man. Not a couple of different ones, but ONE. ONE woman. Adam had ONE Eve, ONE suitable helpmate that God created for him & he does the same for men today.

What may be suitable for one man is not suitable for another, so ladies when you're  rejected, don't take it so hard. God is pointing you in the right direction. Not every man is going to be interested in you or see your worth. God will use the specific qualities he's placed within you to bring what the man needs into his life, just as the man will do for you. What one lacks, the other one will have. You are only to be that something that is more precious than rubies to ONE man. 

What exactly does it mean to be his "helper" his "helpmate"?.... There are endless ways to help him. But you need to focus first on the things that he needs. Ask him what helps him. All men are different. Most men need encouraging & supportive words. 

If you treat a man like a man, he's a lot more likely to act like one. There are billions of ways to show him support & encouragement. They need you to be their biggest fan & number one cheerleader... it keeps them going when life has him under a lot of stress. 

One thing they all need is your prayers. Lift him up to God.  Care about what's going on in his life. Ask him about work, ask him how he's doing, ask him about the things that he wants. If something important to him is coming up, make sure you're encouraging him & excited for him, let him know you care & what's important to him is important to you. Be involved in his life.

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 

Carry his burdens. Pick him up when he falls. Hold him up when he's weary. Hold things together when everything seem to be falling apart. God will use the strength he gives a woman to do more than you know. Do your best to prevent him from sinking into depression or sadness when something happens or when life is beating up on him. Pray for him! Pray for him!! Pray for him!!!

On a side note.... be aware that helping a man is not the only person you should be helping. As a virtuous Godly woman, you are to help carry the burdens of others as well. You are to reach out to the poor, the lost, the hurting, and the abandoned. 

Proverbs 31:25

Now understand that you are not to pour your effort, time, & self into just any man that walks by. This is only for a Godly man who is sincerely & actively pursuing you with the intentions of biblical courtship or for a man who is already your husband.  THEN you can rock his world. As long as he is being the Godly leader he is called to be, there is no reason you shouldn't be doing your part. But don't waste all you have to offer on someone who is not going to make it a priority to be there. Save what God gave you for the one who will...the RIGHT person. 

How do you be a strong woman?.... Your strength must come from God. Joy in the Lord is absolutely first a foremost essential to obtaining strength. Your personal time with God is needed everyday. Your praise & worship to God is a must everyday. Your prayer time is needed everyday. 

Get in your prayer closets prayer warriors. Spending time in God's word is something you must do everyday. You will gain strength & God is the only one who can give it to you.

Don't just be strong for a man, be strong for yourself first. Keep pressing on ladies. Keep praising. Keep moving forward. If you get knocked down, get right back up. Learn from everything, but never let anything hold you down & chain you up. Never stop fighting. Victory is in Christ Jesus. That victory is YOURS because the Holy Spirit dwells within you. 

This world needs strong woman, fighters who do not let the enemy have his way in her life, her man's life, or the lives of the people she loves and cares about. Fight until the end ladies, for you WILL win :). 

I just felt that this was something God was speaking to my heart. This day & age lacks the strength of a Godly virtuous woman and it's time we change that ladies!! Let's fulfill what God has placed us here to do. Let's make the king of kings proud! :)