Whether you have been married for 30 years or have just
come back from the honeymoon you may think you know everything about your
husband but here are 10 things that you may not know that can bring the two of
you closer than ever.
1. You need to recognize when he needs space. The second
that he walks through the door after a long day of work is not the best time to
be spouting off the latest gossip or the problems that you had with the kids
that day. Let him collect his thoughts and settle down before you begin
barraging him with conversation.
2. When he is really listening to you there are cues that
show whether he is listening or zoning out. If he is responding with one word
answers and not engaging, he is probably not listening. If he repeats info and
offers suggestions, he is.
3. When in a fight, assess both of your moods and enter
the fight calmly instead of screaming and yelling. This can make the argument
more productive.
4. When entering into a fight, assess whether it is
really worth it or if it is something silly that will blow up out of
proportion.
5. Recognize and stay away from topics that will set him
off such as his late nights at work or his mother’s poor cooking.
6. Learn when to be supportive. If you aren’t sure if he
needs support, ask him. Men feel appreciated differently than women do. If they
feel like they are needed, that makes them feel appreciated.
7. If you notice the flame on your love life has
flickered, plan a special date that will get both of you in the mood.
8. Respect his role as a father and a husband and notice
his views and how he feels about it as well .
9. Regularly talk with him about his dream job or dream
car and try to figure out ways that you can make that happen for him.
10. Know that you will never know every little thing
about your husband and that is perfectly fine as long as there is still
communication between the two of you.
by Krystle Crossman
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