Every relationship being very complex in nature and function
obvious issues can occur at any point of a relationship. No one can exactly
predict what may happen at what time in a relationship. There are several very
common issues observed in relationships. The nature and intensity of the issues
depend on the mode of relationship and dept of emotional attachment.
The initial stages of relationships are generally found to
be stable and free of greater issues as the adjustment and tolerance are more.
But as the time passes on and the formal ways are replaced with the casual
attitudes the issues can come up. If not taken the right measures of problem
solving, they can spoil the relationship and end in breakups.
1. Poor communication
Poor communication is one of the greatest causes for most of
the bulging issues in any communication. There should be very strong and clear
communication between the partners in a relationship. Many a time issues occur
not because there is a specific cause, but because the communications get
misunderstood. If the messages reach the wrong way to the partner, there can be
obvious gaps between the people and a complete breakup in the future.
Do not presume that the partner will understand what you
feel and what you want from him/her. Discuss all the aspects of the
relationship and make each other well aware of the attitudes, likes, dislikes
and expectations of both the partners in the relationship. Do not hesitate to
communicate with the partner being afraid of the reaction of the persona or
thinking that he/she may think against your point.
2. Sexual relationship
Sexual activities are aspects where the partners may have
very many personal ambitions and when something goes wrong they may feel
incompatible with the other one. The way one person wants to maintain the
sexual life may not be the same the partner needs it. Again, the right
communication is the solution and adjusting without hampering the self honor
and dignity. Do not sacrifice all your desires just for the happiness of the
partner as it may in future become a cause for discomfort and a possible
breakup.
3. Financial management
People in a relationship may have to cooperate in financial
management and many times mutual sharing and expenditures may occur in
relationships. "My money is mine and your money is also mine"
attitude may, certainly, damage the trust and honor of relationships.
When you get into a relationship, be ready to spend for
common needs and share the income for common or personal needs of the partner.
Do not keep your income and expenditure a secret with the partner. Similarly
make the partner aware of your financial obligations too. Knowing the financial
status of each partner may help them share mutually and manage the income in
the best ways.
4. Frequent conflicts
Conflicts are inevitable part in life, how happy and
compatible the partners may be. Relationship between two people is just like
joining two odd objects. No partners are perfectly alike or absolutely
matching. Occasional conflicts are quite natural but getting into frequent
quarrels and arguments may spoil the relationship. Avoid all the unnecessary
conflicts and never make argument a habit.
Many relationships end in breakups because of the avoidable
issues between the partners. Never take an argument in a relationship as issue
of honor; rather if the partner doesn't leave the topic, you withdraw
deliberately. Be wise to choose how to react and when to react. Understanding
the partner perfectly will help a person to decide how to react in conflicts.
5. Trust is everything
It is truly said that it is the trust that give thrust to
the relationships. Two people get into relationship because they feel each
other lovable and trustworthy. The partners need to be careful not to break
trust if they really need to cherish a long term relationship. Lying to the
partner, concealing certain facts from him/her etc., are detrimental actions in
any relationship.
Be open and frank to the partner and create a free
atmosphere between them so that there won't be a need of telling lies. Being
constant, being ion time, adhering to promises being fair in arguments, being
good listener etc., are advisable modes of maintaining the trust between the
partners in a relationship.
Source: Prokerala
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