Telling white lies and fibs are something that just about everyone does
from time to time. In fact, they can even be necessary for your survival. If a
woman asks you, "Hunny do these pants make me look fat"? It is in
your best interest to say NO, even if you are blatantly lying to your
significant other's face. However, some situations have higher stakes (no pun
intended), and having the ability to know when someone is lying to you can be
crucial. Luckily, being able to detect the signs of a lie can be learned by
reading the person's body language.
It's been said that over 90% of communication is non-verbal. This means
that there is a lot more to a person than just what they say. In fact, once you
get better at being able to "read between the lines", you will notice
that much of what people say isn't exactly congruent with what their body is
saying.
So here are some things to look for the next time you think someone is
lying to you.
(It is important to remember to read non-verbal cues in clusters since
an isolated gesture can have a certain meaning given its context)
Face
The Mouth Cover - The hand covers the mouth as
the brain subconsciously tells it to try and suppress the deceitful lies being told. Often times, the liar will try and cover this gesture up with a fake
cough.
The Nose Touch - Consists of one to several small
rubs of the bottom of the nose. According to a study done at the Smell and
Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago, chemicals known as
catecholamines are released causing tissue inside the nose to swell. This is
known as the "Pinocchio Effect". The chemicals cause a slight
irritation that urge a person to rub or scratch it.
The Ear Grab - Happens when the person who is
lying tugs or rubs the back of the ear. It also comes in the form of tugging at
the earlobe or bending the entire ear forward.
Fingers-In-The-Mouth - This occurs when a person
uses the satisfaction that comes from an oral fixation to calm himself down
when they are lying. This can also be seen when a person inserts either a
cigarette, pen, glasses, or gum into their mouth.
Eyes
Pupil Dilation - A person's pupils will dilate up to
four sizes. It is important to remember that dilation can also occur depending
on the lighting. So it may not be the most effective tool in detecting signs of
a lie.
Eye Contact - Contrary to popular belief, studies
have shown that people will actually hold eye contact when lying. It is
believed that these people do so in attempts to try and do the opposite of what
would normally be expected.
Blinking - The average person blinks six to
eight times per minute. Each blink lasts about a tenth of a second. However, a
person who is lying will increase their blinking rate.
Eye Movement - The eyes of a person move when they
want to access certain parts of their brain. American psychologists Grinder and
Bandler developed this concept in a field of study called Neurolinguistic
Programming (NLP). Eyes that move to the left side do so to RECALL imagery(up),
sounds(mid), or for self-talk(down). Eyes that move to the right do so to
CREATE imagery(up), noises(mid), or to recall an emotion(down). So a person
that moves their eyes to the right (your left) in a sudden and unconscious
fashion may be making something up on the spot. Just be aware that these
movements can happen in a fraction of a second.
Arms
The Collar Pull - Lies cause a tingling
sensation in the delicate facial and neck tissues. Increased blood pressure
also causes you to perspire on your neck, which leads a person to pull their
collar to allow air to circulate. This also happens when a person is angry or
frustrated.
The Neck Scratch- This is one of the classics
signs of a lie. The index finger of the dominant hand scratches the side of the
neck below the earlobe. This gesture reveals that the person has doubt or
uncertainty. The amount of scratches usually comes in fives.
Crossed arms - Can signify that the person is
closing them self off or creating a barrier between them and the person they
are lying to.
Hands
Hands
Open Palms- Showing your palms is a way of showing
another person that you come in peace. By demonstrating that you have nothing
in your hands, you are essentially telling the person that you are not
"holding" anything back. Many people who are truly innocent will
raise both hands up with their palms facing outward in surrender. Those who may
be lying will be more reluctant to do so.
Becoming a human lie detector test is a process and is something that
you will improve on with time. Again, it is crucial that body language be read
in clusters. This will prevent someone from misinterpreting a gesture that may
have been purely contextual. As you begin to get better and better, remember
that people lie for different reasons.
Some of these may be fear, anxiety, confusion, or a number of other things. So be forgiving and use this new skill as a way to better understand others around you and not as a way to simply call them out or make them feel bad. It should always be about improving the quality of both your life and those of your peers.
Some of these may be fear, anxiety, confusion, or a number of other things. So be forgiving and use this new skill as a way to better understand others around you and not as a way to simply call them out or make them feel bad. It should always be about improving the quality of both your life and those of your peers.
References (Book): The Definitive Book of Body Language by Allan &
Barbara Pease
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